If things have changed with your friend or boyfriend, following these five simple rules will help you put your feelings first. Use these rules as a "checklist" for future relationships, so you can avoid wasting time with people that will bring you down, and start seeking out the ones that will bring out the best in you.
Golden Rule #1: If they ever put you down, even once, dump them. Why stick around with someone who will slowly chip away at your self-esteem? Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. Staying isn't worth it ...just rip the Band-Aid off. It will hurt but only temporarily.
Golden rule #2: Don't try to be something you're not. If they're not happy with the real you, then the relationship obviously wasn't meant to be. Never compromise who you are for a relationship.
Golden rule #3: If they're always breaking their word, then let them go.
Golden rule #4: If every little thing makes them fly off the handle, they're not worth it. Every relationship deserves a fight or two to make it stronger, but if you're going at it like cats and dogs constantly, the relationship wasn't meant to last.
Golden rule #5: If they are racist or discriminatory in any way, or they talk badly about your family or close friends, dump them.
Couple Fighting While keeping these rules in mind, the best thing to do is to make your own checklist. Write down what you want out of the relationship or friendship and if things don't add up, cut your losses. It's best not to act like children and bicker back and forth. It may hurt in the beginning, but you'll thank yourself later.
Always remember, while it sounds cliché, you want someone who will love you for who you are, because in the end you can't change who you are and you can't change who they are.
